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Religious Tolerance
Essay · Religious communities and public life

The FLDS “lost boys” and groomed boys

A historical, carefully worded overview of how gender imbalance, authority and expulsion affected some boys connected with the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.

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Historical context

What this essay examines

This page records longstanding reporting and former-member accounts about boys raised in FLDS communities, particularly around Colorado City, Arizona, and Hildale, Utah. It distinguishes documented history from allegations and speculation.

Reading note

The material concerns minors, coercive control, family separation and religious authority. It is presented for education, not as a diagnosis of every member or as a judgment on people who leave or remain in a faith community.

The FLDS is a fundamentalist religious movement that separated from the mainstream Latter-day Saint tradition. Its system of plural marriage and concentrated religious authority shaped family life, education, clothing, work and relationships. Public accounts from the early 2000s drew particular attention to the position of boys.

Why boys became a central issue

In a community where a smaller number of men were expected to have multiple wives, families could contain more young men than the social structure was prepared to accommodate as adults. Former members and journalists reported that some adolescent boys were expelled or socially separated from the community, while a smaller group of boys was prepared for positions that could include marriage and leadership.

“Lost boys”Young men described as having been sent away or cut off from community life, often with limited schooling, money or preparation for independent living.
“Groomed boys”A term used in reporting for boys viewed by leaders as suitable for future authority or plural-marriage roles. The circumstances varied and are not fully documented.

Accounts of expulsion and separation

Former members described boys being disciplined or expelled for conduct that conflicted with community rules, including contact with popular culture, attendance at public school, clothing choices or relationships outside the group. Some accounts also describe abrupt departures and pressure on parents to limit contact.

These reports should be read alongside the limits of the historical record. The FLDS operated with considerable secrecy, and available accounts were shaped by investigative reporting, court proceedings, government statements and personal testimony. Numbers cited in older reports are estimates rather than a complete census.

Education, work and rebuilding a life

Young people who left were often described as facing practical obstacles: incomplete formal education, unfamiliarity with ordinary institutions, limited employment experience and the loss of family or community networks. Support from relatives, former members and local organizations helped some people find housing, schooling and work, but outcomes differed widely.

The issue is therefore broader than a dispute about doctrine. It concerns whether minors can access education, maintain family relationships, make meaningful choices and receive support when they leave a tightly controlled environment.

Authority, consent and accountability

Reports about FLDS leadership raised questions about the boundaries of religious authority. Religious freedom protects belief and worship, but it does not remove the responsibilities of adults toward children or prevent public institutions from investigating coercion, abuse, unlawful marriage or educational neglect.

It is also important not to treat every former member’s experience as identical. Some accounts emphasize severe control and loss; others dispute broad descriptions of the community. A responsible summary keeps those differences visible while taking credible concerns about children seriously.

Archive method

Sources and limits

This essay preserves the topic and historical focus of an older website page while avoiding unverified quotations and inflammatory descriptions. Contemporary reporting, public records and former-member accounts were used in the original discussion, but some external links and claims may no longer be available or current.

Readers seeking a present-day assessment should consult current court records, child-protection guidance and reputable reporting. This page does not provide legal advice, clinical advice or a complete account of the FLDS.

For broader reading, explore the religion and news archive, religion and law and main topics.

Reader guide

Questions to keep in view

What is documented?Separate court findings and contemporaneous reporting from estimates, allegations and recollections.
Who is affected?Consider children, parents, former members, remaining members and surrounding institutions without reducing them to labels.
What rights matter?Education, safety, family connection, freedom of conscience and the ability to seek help.
What should readers avoid?Generalizing one group’s reported practices to all Latter-day Saint communities or all religious minorities.